Quote #7

"With so many motivational speakers and life coaches, why are people still unhappy? I guess that's why it is a huge business. They are profiting off of people's misery"-- Princess Jewel Dell'Amor

Own Your Truth

Painting of Garden of Eden, Located in Dell'Amor Studios

Recently, while coming to a cross road with a close friend, made me reflect on how important authenticity is, in order to obtain real happiness in our lives. For years, I think I was caught up in hiding my true feelings, not being able to express feelings of love, not having the ability to express hurt openly and honestly, and not  being able to be true to me. And it has taken me a few years to gain this sort of  freedom of expression. But I tell you, once you have it, it is far more liberating than anything you could ever ask for. I am able to openly share how I feel with someone I love. I am able to express my love. And I am able to express my disappointments. But what has been important to me, is to express myself with compassion for that next human being.

We are not hurting the next person when we shield ourselves from them. We are hurting ourselves and causing injury in our very own lives. You see, I am not talking about opening yourself up to the world. I am talking about being able to express yourself in your personal relationships. And that means expressing feelings of true love, expressing care, concern, hurt and even disappointments without an intention to hurt or harm that human being. We tend to shield these emotions because we think that we are really protecting ourselves and gaining esteem. But we are creating a path of loneliness, one that leaves a trail of dishonesty and falsehood.

When we hide ourselves from one another, we are not being strong, we are behaving insecure.

Strength lies in being able to express yourself and not giving a damn if you are excepted or not. Strength lies in simply saying, "you hurt me" or even "I love you and care for you".

I could not say that before. In fact, I felt it was cowardice behavior to express these things.

In essence, those that I loved, could not grasp  who I really was. Nor could they understand me. And if I could not express my disappointment in their actions, they could not understand how it had affected me.

Today, many of us are rooted in this insecurity. Maybe this isn't you. But many of us have adapted to this sort of mindset. We shield ourselves because we feel that in essence, it is weak to be open. But I am asking you to wake up. When you hide who you are, in your personal relationships, you have issues. You can refuse to believe it or not, but you are well aware that you do. And your issues should be dealt with, promptly. I don't blame you for your issues, because each and every one of us are caught behind some sort of mask, that is enriched in the way we think.We have been taught to put on fronts even from our very own parents and loved ones. And hurtful lessons in life, has caused us to learn to shield our hearts even further.

But if you understand that these are natural emotions that we all feel at one time or another, you will understand that you do not have to concern yourself with the repercussions of someone else's insecurities. If they can not accept you for you being you, then that's not your issue to harbor.

Ask yourself has these safeguards worked? And can you tell me if they have in fact worked from them? The truth lies within  the caliber of relationships that we have in own lives.
So think about that. Own Your Truth...and get naked in those relationships that you want to hold onto.